“The doors to the world of the wild Self are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old, old story, that is a door. If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door. If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.”
― Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Individual Therapy
For people untangling shame, rebuilding self-trust, and finding their way toward lives that reflect their actual desires and values.
Some of the most important relational work happens alone — with your own history, your own body, your own desire, and your own understanding of who you are versus who you were taught you should be.
The people who find their way to this practice often share one quality: their interior life is more complex, more particular, or more at odds with what's expected than they can easily explain. The gap between what you actually feel and what feels sayable, permissible, or comprehensible to the people around you — that is precisely the territory individual therapy is built to navigate.
I offer in-person sessions in Arcata and telehealth throughout California. Where appropriate, I offer Coaching nationally and globally.
Areas of Focus
Sexual shame and the aftermath of religious or cultural orthodoxy
Queer identity, coming out, and integration at any age
Gender identity and transition support
Desire — its presence, absence, confusion, or conflict with personal values
Sexual trauma and the ways it shapes intimacy and relationship
Attachment patterns and how they organize love, desire, and self-protection
Loneliness and the grief of not having the relationships you want
Dating after loss, divorce, or significant relational change
Asexuality and demisexuality in a world that assumes desire
Psychedelic integration — especially experiences touching sexuality or identity
Body image and embodiment
Sexuality and chronic illness, disability, or body change
Money, power, and erotic identity — especially for sex workers, artists, and people whose livelihood is entangled with their body or relational self
Frequently Asked Questions
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A: Yes. Most individual clients are not in relationships or are working on something unrelated to a current partner. Individual therapy is for your relationship with yourself.
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A: Oh yes! People raised in traditions where shame, prohibition, or surveillance shaped their relationship to sexuality are a significant part of this practice. The work of separating your actual values from inherited ones takes time and deserves care.
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A: Yes. I work with trans, nonbinary, gender expansive, two-spirit, and questioning people of all ages navigating identity, transition, and the relational and erotic dimensions of gender. I work in-and-outside of medical models of gender identity.
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A: warm, direct, and deeply practical. I believe in the wisdom of your experience and your body. I use evidence-based practices tailored to your unique needs.
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